ATTENTION: People With LOVED ONES With Bipolar Disorder OVER 18 to 60 Years Old…
Fri, 27 May 2016
From: David Oliver
Mental Health Advocate, Bipolar Expert, and Seasoned Bipolar Researcher
Dear Fellow Bipolar Supporter,
Imagine you could end all the pain, confusion and frustration that bipolar disorder is causing you and your family.
Less bipolar anger…
Less frequent and lower intensity mood swings…
Less crazy bipolar behavior.
Imagine fewer arguments. Less time having to deal with the frustration that comes from fighting with an irrational person. Imagine fewer ups and downs. Not having to deal with the almost constant mood swings that your loved one goes through and somehow drags you into.
Imagine a better family dynamic. Reducing the impact of your loved one's bipolar disorder to your daily activities. The disorder that --up to now--has been gradually taking over and interfering with every aspect of your life.
Imagine finally having peace back in your life because you and your loved one finally understand how to cope and deal with this devastating disorder.
If you support a loved one who is bipolar, you understand that they are often hard to predict and can seem randomly inappropriate and unstable.
If you're exhausted from walking on eggshells because it only takes "one wrong step" to set them off (and you're about to pull out what's left of your hair)…
If you're utterly exhausted from taking the abuse, but you still love and want to support their recovery from this dreadful disorder...
Then you’re going to be thrilled your journey brought you to this page!!!
Hi, my name is David Oliver. I am one of the nation's leading experts on helping Bipolar Supporters. Please give me a few minutes to tell you my story and explain how I learned so much about coping and dealing with a loved one’s bipolar disorder… and in particular the crazy, irrational anger which so often accompanies it!
Ten years ago, I was typing the phrase "bipolar disorder" and variations of those words into every search engine on the Internet hoping to find a magic solution that would end my nightmare.
I found out my mother had been diagnosed and suffering with bipolar disorder. I was desperate because I had no information that would help me understand and deal with the bizarre and sometimes frightening aspects of her disorder.
I visited website after website hoping that the answer would reveal itself. I searched for a reason, some guidance, just someone to talk to about it. All I found were pages of the same rehashed information about bipolar disorder. Every site said the same thing and none had the answers I was looking for.
I couldn’t find anything useful, certainly nothing that told me how to help a loved one cope and live with bipolar disorder. And absolutely nothing which told me how to cope and deal with a loved one’s Bipolar Disorder which—you and I both know—is NOT an easy task, right?.
I was so incredibly frustrated and I felt like I was at the end of my rope. Every single day seemed like one long, never-ending bad dream, and as much as I wanted to, I couldn't wake up.
What are the symptoms of bipolar disorder? What are the warning signs? Let me explain them to you. It’s so important
First I reviewed the symptoms.
The primary symptoms of bipolar disorder are dramatic and unpredictable mood swings.
Mania symptoms may include excessive happiness, excitement, irritability, restlessness, increased energy, less need for sleep, racing thoughts, high sex drive, and a tendency to make grand and unattainable plans.
Depression symptoms may include sadness, anxiety, irritability, loss of energy, uncontrollable crying, change in appetite causing weight loss or gain, increased need for sleep, difficulty making decisions, and thoughts of death or suicide.
I realized that my mother, who has had bipolar disorder since she was born, was in the middle of a major bipolar episode...
Who is Affected by Bipolar Disorder?
With this in mind it can be said that anyone can become bipolar. It’s not their fault if they get it, and it’s not by choice. They didn’t do anything to deserve it, and they didn’t do anything to cause it.
This is important to remember when you’re mad at your loved one who is displaying bipolar behavior. People may try to compare it with drugs or alcohol, as people who do these things act weird and sometimes crazy. But what they aren’t taking into account is that taking drugs and alcohol is a choice. Being bipolar is NOT a choice!
Back to my Mom…
I found out my mom was bipolar as she was having probably the worst bipolar episode she had ever experienced. I knew I needed to step in to be her primary supporter.
However, all the days of abuse, yelling, and screaming were taking its toll on me (the same feeling you've probably had with taking care of your loved one - the stress is incredible, isn't it?).
The internet was just the start of my search, as I didn’t find what I was looking for I started researching elsewhere.
I devoured everything I could find at the library, including boring, technical medical journals and dozens of books. I tracked down every bipolar expert I could find, in all disciplines, from physician, to therapist, to pharmacist and beyond.
I made amazing progress in my 9-month journey... I went from knowing nothing about her disorder and having NO idea how to cope and deal with her anger (and other symptoms)….to realizing I personally had become an expert on the topic!
After my months of research, I can tell you one thing for sure: If you're supporting someone with bipolar, you’ve got a better chance of winning one of those multi-state lotteries than finding the information you need to help your loved one SUCCESSFULLY cope with bipolar disorder…
And even less of a chance of learning how YOU can cope and deal with their bipolar disorder!
Because nearly all of the information that's available is produced by doctors and professors who have a clinical relationship with bipolar disorder - NOT by people who are forced to deal with the irrational yelling, screaming, and arguing. NOT by people who are living with consequences of the disorder day in and day out.
You don't need cold, clinical theories from physicians who spend a few hours a day tending patients with bipolar. You need coping strategies that work... from people who’ve actually walked in your shoes day in, day out for years. People who’ve SOLVED the problem.
You need help from people who have firsthand knowledge of what it’s like to have to deal with a loved one with bipolar disorder, and who have learned to cope with them successfully.
Let me tell you how my family has been affected by my mom's long struggle with bipolar disorder.
My mother has had four major episodes in her life. Each of these episodes werewere so severe she had to be hospitalized for more than 10 days..Based on my calculations, that was one major episode every 7 years or so.
Each time, she would become super angry. She would first lash out against my dad by screaming and yelling at him. Next it would be my brother (whenever he was actually around). Then finally me. Lucky me!
It was bad over the years.
But the last time it happened, it was much, much worse...
My mother had turned into a completely different person. She wouldn't eat or sleep. She only yelled, screamed, and said extremely hurtful things to my father and myself. My brother had no idea how to deal with the problem, so he made himself unavailable.
Mom would flip out on us for no reason. We could say the slightest thing to her and BOOM she would become extremely mad at all of us.
My dad usually just avoided her.
My natural-but-unfortunate response was to argue back, I didn’t like how she was behaving and I let her know.
If you learn just one thing from my story know that arguing with someone in a manic state does not work. (Read that sentence again please…it will save you a LOT of pain!)
Anyway, for about a month, my mom was on a rampage.
She missed many days of work and until she finally stopped going altogether. Even then, she would call her job at least 6 to 8 times a day. She would also call family members and friends just to say mean things to them. I can't tell you how many people she alienated in that very short period of time.
If that wasn’t bad enough, my mom soon started to flat out make things up. She would tell people that my dad or I would say something mean or hurtful, when in reality, we hadn’t said anything of the sort.
She’d also tell stories of things other people had told her, which we later found out were completely untrue. (Nobody had said a thing.)
We never knew when she was telling the truth or when she was lying.
Then came the absolute most harmful of all the symptoms of her disorder – the out of control spending.
My mom would buy random things, then give them away to people! She wouldn’t even use them. I could see buying things if you were going to use them, but just giving them away?
She would buy like $600 worth of groceries, then let most of the food go bad. Just like that. All that wasted food! I don’t know why she bought so many groceries, it was baffling. The items she would purchase in bulk were crazy, one day I found 12 bottles of BBQ sauce on her counter!
One day, under a huge pile of clothes on her bed (I don’t know where she got all those clothes, either), I found a brand new TV set!
You would think that my mom was a rich woman the way that she was spending all this money and wasting it. But the truth was in reality – she definitely could NOT afford to spend the money she was spending. By purchasing items she didn’t need or she would give away she was putting herself further and further into debt.
After everything that I had seen and all that was going on…
I finally decided Mom needed to go to the hospital...
Of course, she refused. She screamed that she was fine. She told me I was the one that needed to go to the hospital, not her! She insisted all of her “supporters” said she would get better at home. She called me a “terrible son” and demanded I “get out of her life forever”.
And that was just the beginning.
She continued to swear at me and to throw everything she could get her hands on at me. She repeatedly demanded I leave the house and leave her alone because she never wanted to see me again.
Initially, I thought my brother had the right idea to ignore the huge elephant in the room and pretend there was no problem. I could close my eyes, cross my fingers and hope that her problem would correct itself out.
But I just couldn’t do it. You see, my dad has quite a few health problems, including congestive heart failure, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. I was worried that the constant barrage of cursing and screaming would cause him to have a heart attack or stroke.
So, to protect my dad’s health, I took it upon myself to speak to my mom every morning and every evening so she could focus her anger at me. EVERY DAY, every morning and night, for 4 straight weeks. For about two hours a day, I allowed her scream at me so I could divert at least some of her anger away from my dad.
After searching for awhile, I was able to find the name of my mom’s doctor. We’d never talked to him or about him, so we’d also never learned his name or his number (which was one of my family’s big mistakes).
When I did talk to the doctor, he didn’t have a clue. He didn’t know my mom was “that bad.” He said he was trying to regulate her medicine, and I asked, “How are you going to know when her medicine was right?”
Do you know what he said?
He said: “I’ll ask her.”
Can you imagine asking a mentally ill person to determine whether or not their medication is effective? What a moron!
I asked the doctor many other questions too, but he didn’t have any answers. He couldn’t give me one valid or solid answer!
He made me so angry I finally said, “Let’s start over again and let me ask you some warm up questions like ‘What’s your name?’ and ‘What state do you live in?’”
It’s sad to say, but the shocking truth you will learn in dealing with this disorder is that not all doctors are good doctors. Are there good doctors? Sure, but there are also really bad doctors.
What makes a good doctor?
A good doctor is one who gives you his time and attention. Who, when you’re with him, acts like you’re his only patient, and he has all the time in the world for you.
A good doctor will treat you with dignity and respect, not judging you for having a mental illness.
A good doctor will look you in the eyes and call you by name, acting interested in what you have to tell him. He will respect your input, and treat your questions with patience, answering any that you may have.
A good doctor will also include your supporter in your treatment, if you want to include them. They will also treat them with the same respect with which they treat you.
A good doctor will be experienced. Not just as a physician, but as one who has experience treating patients with bipolar disorder.
A good doctor, on the other hand, will be just the opposite of a good doctor.
A good doctor will act brusque and rushed, and be impatient when you see them.
A good doctor will not look at you or call you by name, and may be very cold and impersonal with you.
A good doctor will not treat you with dignity or respect, and may act very judgmentally.
A good doctor will not be interested in any questions you have for them, or will be so intimidating that you will be afraid to ask them.
A good doctor will not include your supporter in your treatment, and will give you a hard time if you want to include them. They may even go so far as ignoring the supporter even if they are in the treatment room with you.
A good doctor is one who has no (or little) experience treating patients with bipolar disorder.
Unfortunately, my mom had a bad doctor.
Asking questions and not sugarcoating my disdain for his lack of interest made him mad, but his reaction taught me something. You can have a doctor that is part of the problem, not part of the solution. I could never rely on him. So I went back to MY personal research.
It was the toughest nine months of my life, but it was worth it. I finally found the answers I had been seeking.
Here's how all my dedicated research helped ME to cope and deal with my Mom’s bipolar disorder.
ME BEFORE MY RESEARCH:
ME AFTER MY RESEARCH:
Felt free and not intimidated…
The difference this information has made in my life and in my family's life has been absolutely amazing
I know how much pain can result from not knowing how to cope and deal with a loved one’s anger from bipolar disorder.
But more importantly, I realized I now held the proverbial keys to the kingdom. What I had learned could help many other familiescope and deal with their loved one’s bipolar disorder.
Let me tell you about some of the things that I learned…
I learned that I had handled my mom’s angry outbursts all WRONG! I mean, all those nasty confrontations with her, sometimes over seemingly nothing… but I thought the problem was her, and I was handling it the only way I could at the time. I didn’t know any other way.
There is a better way, and it’s pretty simple. When your loved one starts to argue, you don’t have to argue back.
Don’t Participate in the Argument.
If your loved one is arguing with you and you don’t argue back, eventually they will have to stop arguing.
By not engaging in the argument you stay calm. By staying calm, it will help your loved one stay calm too! At the very least, it can keep them from getting even more agitated and making the whole situation worse.
When you engage in the argument with your loved one you are prolonging the fight. You are making it harder on yourself by agitating the already irritable irrational person and pretty much guarantee they won’t be calming down anytime soon.
There is just no use arguing with a person in a bipolar rage. You are never going to win. They are irrational, and your point of view will never penetrate their thick skulls until they calm down from the rage.
Thinking back on all the arguments and frustrating fights, if I would have realized not participating in the argument would make it go away quicker, I would have saved myself from hours of upset.
Another thing I could have handled differently is that I could have NOT taken things personally.
Don’t Take their Outburst Personally.
No matter how mentally stable, confident and strong you are, you have feelings. When people you know and even love say something horrible to you, it’s hard not to take it personally.
When my mom would say something hurtful to me, my response would be an emotional one. How could I not feel hurt, she was my mother after all? If I would have just let the spiteful things my mom said to me reflect off me without taking them personally, I might have handled the whole thing better and it wouldn’t hurt so much.
I know this is easier said than done, but with practice, you can do it.
I’m not saying you become a robot or anything, but when living with someone with bipolar disorder you do need to develop thicker skin. Don’t let the things your loved one says or does hurt you.
If you can remember it’s the bipolar talking, NOT the person you love. You know that if they were themselves they would never speak to you the way they do when they are having an episode. They wouldn’t hurt you on purpose and if they had control.
After a while, it gets easier to not take things personally.
Learn how to Explain your Loved One’s Disorder.
Not everyone feels comfortable telling people outside of your close friends and family about family business, but sometimes you may be required to move outside your comfort zone.
One thing I had a hard time dealing with was my mom’s constant lying. For example, I know she told her neighbors bad things about me, because whenever I would go over to her house, they would all stare or point to me. They wouldn’t talk to me anymore or even say hello.
It got so bad that whenever I would go over my mom’s house, I would just avoid the neighbors and just sort of run from my car into her house.
I felt ashamed every time I went over there, because I know the neighbors thought bad things about me. All because my mom had told them lies about me.
What I should have done was confront my mom and told her that I knew she had told the neighbors lies about me and that she needed to go to them and “make good” on those lies. And if she refused I would tell them why she was saying these things. Explaining your loved one’s condition is not easy. You may lose some friends, but if everyone involved knows what and why things are happening, they will be more forgiving.
Ultimately, I should have ensured she take responsibility for what she had done, and correct the lie she told.
Today that’s what I would do, because I have learned.
In this short and super concise guide you’ll discover:
|How to cope and deal with your loved one’s bipolar disorder in many different difficult situations|
|New strategies for dealing with your loved one's mood swings|
|What you really need to focus on if you want to get your loved one permanently back to his/her old self|
|An amazing technique to use against your loved one when he/she is mad at you and you don’t want to deal with them|
|The shocking truth about doctors and bipolar disorder. How they make people worse|
|Why so many medications for bipolar disorder fail and what YOU need to do about it to make them succeed even though you are NOT a doctor|
|Exactly what you should AND should not do when your loved one attacks…|
|How to cope and deal with your loved one’s bipolar disorder in all different situations|
|6 specific ways to deal with your loved one's mania right now!|
|The #1 biggest mistake bipolar supporters make BY FAR which ultimately leads to years to decades of trouble with their loved one’s bipolar disorder. If you learn just ONE thing, you need to learn this. It will 100% change you and your loved one’s life with bipolar disorder.|
I consulted EVERYBODY I knew from the literally hundreds of bipolar supporter groups I’ve attended over the years, paying particular attention to those who had be successful in stopping their loved one’s anger.
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I listened to everything I could get my hands on…
I watched so many videos related to bipolar disorder it started giving me mild anxiety.
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